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>Be me
>22 years old
>Had a Past Trauma Relationship
>Its been 5 years and more that I've never experienced to really love someone
>Feels like I've already moved on
>My Friends keep saying about this girl that i should try to met
>Been doubting
>Anon Tried
>She's really have a distinct beauty
>Really Kind Person
>She's really focus on her Academics
>Genuine Girl ngl
>We have the same things that we usually do
>Relatable aF
>After a couple of months knowing each other
>Knowing that she's been through a heartbreak relationship for a couple months ago
>Can relate
>Told her about what I've experienced in the past and knowing that what she's really been through is not easy
>She was really shocked what I've said to her
>Meeting her sometimes personally
>Anon really got triggered by the Past Trauma
>Her voice reminds me of someone that i really love in the past
>Anon tried to overcome it
>I tell her that some bits and portion about her reminds me of someone
>She's okay with it because she can understand what I've been through
>One night ask her out, giving her chocolates and chitchat with her
>She really likes me because I'm a good person with hidden talents, sweet and truly funny hehehe
>That night was especial to me
>Ask her out on a date
>She said yes and give me a hug
>Anon really felt the love
>Anon felt that I might have a chance
>After a week
>She's busy in weekdays and vacant in weekends
>Try to update her on the weekends
>She keeps saying she's busy
>Anon really understand and know where my place is
>After 3 weeks of waiting and updating her if she's vacant
>She keeps repeating the same reasons that she's busy and she's shy to be treated well
>Been Doubting
>I've stop chatting her because I feel like I'm a disturbance or nuisance to her
>After a month happened
>Going out with myself
>The color of the sky seems to be unusual
>The sky turns into orange
>Eating outside and doing social media
>Found out she's in a relationship
>Anon got sad
>Anon realize that it's false hope
>Anon thought that I've overcome my Past Trauma
>Realizing that its getting worse than ever
>I'm a good person that just wanna really love someone
>Questioning myself that I guess relationship is a curse for me
>Life is really unfair and it will be always anon :'(

My sins are unforgivable, the taint wont wash off

Is this just a shit post, or would you really like some life advice?

Because Old Man Soup is much wiser that his actions may lead people to believe.

No Man, this thing really happened to me like fr fr

Because I'm quite tired at the moment from work and not reading things as clearly as I normally do, would you like to hear my thoughts on the matter?

I just don't want to start going into some real deep philosophical discussion if you're not prepared or ready for it.

I mean it when I say "deep" by the way

Most of the time, I act a lot dumber and sillier than I actually am.

I'm Sorry Man, Couldn't find a easiest place where I can express what I've been through :/

That's alright man.

Here's probably the best place for it anyway.

So, just heads up, I'm very tired at the moment as work was a killer today, so there might be a few grammar and spelling mistakes I don't pick up on.

Normally I'd give it a few days, but I don't want to leave you hanging.

So, where to start…

You see…the thing with love is that it is not a science.

Anyone who tells you that you can achieve love by doing X thing, hanging out at N place or by saying Y to Z is talking absolute bollocks.

There is no square root of a heart.

You can think you have everything worked out and that you are sorted; but then a random stranger smiles at you in a crowd or speaks to you in a certain tone and everything you thought you knew goes out the window.

Love isn't something that can be planned, it just happens.

You can put two people in a room who are on paper completely compatible with each other; and if it was a work of fiction, them falling in love would be a certain thing.

But in real life, there are dozens upon dozens of unseen variables at play.

It's just as likely for two people who are polar opposites to fall in love as it is for two people who are of the same mind.

And nothing burns quite like love.

It hurts when you've completely fallen for someone and it hurts even more when it's gone.

When you fall in love, it is all you can think of; and it's all you can think of when you fall out of it.

It's completely natural how you are feeling now; and everyone in their life has felt the same pain at least once in their lives.

It seems almost impossible to think that someone else has felt that terrible gaping yearning you're feeling right now, but it is the truth.

And you will recover.

You may not feel, or even believe that you can right now, but you will.

As for how to go about finding love, it is best to treat it as a person would when trying to convince a wild animal to approach them.

Don't go out with the aim of falling in love in mind.

If you go around stomping and shouting and running after it, you will just end up scaring it away.

Just be calm, be confident and let it come to you.

The best thing you can do is live your life as best you can, but keep an eye out for anything that might come wandering by.

Hobbies and interests are the best way forward in this regard.

If you like drawing, go to an art club.

If you like tabletop, see if anyone is looking for new players to join their group.

There is a club for any and every hobby and interest; regardless of how niche it may be.

Now, you might not find love in these places; but you'll get to meet people.

And the people you'll meet will introduce you to other people who might indeed be the one who falls in love with you, and you with them.

Now you might not be the most outgoing or social of people; but this is the best way of going about things if you want to go hunting for love.

At the very least, you'll be able to build-up a support network of friends and acquaintances who can guide and look after you at your most vulnerable.

Hopefully what I've said here has made you feel a bit better about your situation.

Don't give up hope anon.

You were courageous enough to pursue it once, and I know you will be courageous enough to pursue it again.

There is someone for everyone.

You've got this.